Yes, that's right----it's heinously overdue...but finally a new post on our blog. I know I've once again gone into terrible delinquency in posting to this blog lately (it's been over a month since our last post was about our July 4th trip!!)
Anyhow...it's been a busy time here the past weeks....work has been crazy, our summer schedules have been very busy, Gay Pride was in mid-July (which is a lot of time and effort through my full time job), we've been doing work in our house and yard while the weather is nice (bought a new bathroom sink/counter/vanity top---which is now installed----and ordered new storm door and sliding doors for our deck...anxiously awaiting their arrival), Merlin has started obedience classes (post to come on that later---I promise)....and, of course, there's also the teensy little fact that WE ARE FINALLY LEGALLY MARRIED!!!
So here is the (belated) story of how same sex marriage came to the Libey household here in Rochester...
...as we posted way back in June, we were thrilled when the NYS Senate approved the same-sex marriage bill and the governor signed it. We decided immediately (actually we had made this decision a while prior---but that night the decision was crystalized for us), that as soon as the law went into effect we would immediately do the legal part of the process to get a marriage license and get legally married----and that we would probably then plan a ceremony/reception of some kind for later on when we had more time to plan, get things together, etc. We made this decision because: 1.) we wanted to be immediately able to access the legal recognitions/benefits that come with marriage (and, which, quite honestly we felt we should have had for years now! LOL)...and 2.) because in several other states even after marriage equality has passed, it's been a precarious situation and sometimes those rights end up getting further restricted or repealed (a la "Proposition 8" in California) and we wanted to make sure we didn't miss our chance. So on July 24th, when the law officially went into effect, we knew we wanted to be among the first couples to be at City Hall to get our marriage license.
I have Sundays off during the summer and so Jason and I woke up early that morning and made a nice breakfast (yum blueberry pancakes--with blueberries from Jason's father's garden---and sausage!) ran a couple errands and then we walked down to City Hall which is about a 15 minute walk from our house. It was a hot, sunny, beautiful day. City Hall opened at 1pm but we anticipated that there might be a line and crowd so we left home around noon and got to City Hall at about 12:15pm. As we got near City Hall, we noticed that the city had hung pride flags from the street poles (they always do that during Pride week but they either left them up or decided to put them back up to celebrate marriage equality)...and a small crowd had already gathered at the doors to City Hall and there was music, balloons, signs, etc. It was a jubilant and festive environment!!
|Part of the crowd that gathered before the doors opened.|
Once the paperwork was done there was just a short wait while they typed our license up and we paid and then we were out of the clerk's office. As we were leaving there was still quite a line in the main hallway and the crowd erupted into applause for us, and every couple, who emerged with their envelope containing their license in hand. We saw many people and couples we knew, hung out for a bit and chatted with friends and acquaintances and even went to a community celebration/reception being held at a gay-friendly church across the street where they were serving punch and snacks (like the cake pictured above). Then it was time to walk home----and begin the mandated 24 hour wait until we could actually "seal the deal"......
|Bridget, me, Jason, Sady, Steven & our completed marriage license.|
Now, I had told them all, this was just a formality----we were basically just all going to get together for a few minutes, sign the necessary papers and be done with it....no pomp and circumstance, nothing special. Steven, however, is much more sentimental and had other plans....so he had planned out some actual vows and had both Bridget and Sady do brief readings and we did it on our back porch/deck so there was a somewhat appealing surrounding. At first when Steven said this is how we would do it...I thought "Oh brother, this isn't supposed to be a big deal...today is not the special day!"....but it was one of those times when someone else clearly knows better than you know for yourself....because once we started, the emotions underlying the significance of what we were doing became apparent for everyone. I was tearing up. Jason was positively glowing. Our friends there to participate were choking up....it was very, very special. Here are some pictures:
|Steven leading the ceremony.|
|Bridget doing an initial reading.|
|"....by the power vested in me by the State of New York, I now pronounce you married..."|
|"...you may kiss your husband..."|
|Sady signing to make it official.|
|Bridget helping us seal the deal.|
|Steven----the final step. Then it's off in the mail and the official copy arrives very soon!|